Attachment Style Test
Discover your attachment style and learn how you tend to behave in relationships. Based on attachment theory.
I worry that the people I'm close to will stop loving me without warning.
About this Attachment Style Test
This Attachment Style Test is based on attachment theory, first developed by psychologist John Bowlby and expanded by Mary Ainsworth. Attachment style describes the way you form emotional bonds with the people closest to you, especially romantic partners. The test measures two core dimensions — relationship anxiety and relationship avoidance — and combines them to identify one of four attachment styles: Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, or Fearful-Avoidant. It takes about five minutes to complete and requires no registration. Your answers are scored instantly in your browser and are never stored, so your result is completely private.
What the Attachment Style Test covers
The test asks 30 questions about how you think, feel, and behave. Here is the full list:
- 1.I worry that the people I'm close to will stop loving me without warning.
- 2.I feel uncomfortable when someone wants to get very close very quickly.
- 3.I often need reassurance that my partner or friends really care about me.
- 4.I value my independence more than being close to others.
- 5.When someone I love is away, I feel anxious and a little insecure.
- 6.I find it hard to depend on other people.
- 7.I fear being abandoned by the people who matter most to me.
- 8.I tend to pull away when someone starts relying on me emotionally.
- 9.I overthink small changes in my partner's mood or tone of voice.
- 10.I prefer to deal with my problems on my own rather than asking for help.
- 11.I feel uneasy when I don't hear back from someone I care about for a while.
- 12.Opening up to others makes me feel vulnerable, so I avoid it.
- 13.I worry that I'm not good enough for the people I love.
- 14.I keep my feelings to myself, even in close relationships.
- 15.I often seek confirmation that my relationships are going well.
- 16.I feel suffocated when a partner wants too much togetherness.
- 17.When conflict arises, I'm afraid the relationship will end.
- 18.I have a hard time expressing my needs in relationships.
- 19.I have a hard time trusting that someone will stay with me.
- 20.I downplay the importance of close relationships in my life.
- 21.I feel emotionally overwhelmed when someone I love pulls away.
- 22.I distance myself when a relationship starts to feel too intimate.
- 23.I replay conversations in my head looking for signs of rejection.
- 24.I rarely turn to other people for comfort when I'm upset.
- 25.I need to feel close to my partner to feel safe and secure.
- 26.Being self-sufficient matters more to me than being emotionally close.
- 27.I tend to become clingy when I sense distance from someone I love.
- 28.I feel the need to escape when someone becomes too attached to me.
- 29.I worry that I love people more than they love me.
- 30.I keep romantic partners at arm's length to avoid getting hurt.
Frequently Asked Questions
What are the 4 attachment styles?
The four attachment styles are Secure, Anxious (also called Anxious-Preoccupied), Avoidant (Dismissive-Avoidant), and Fearful-Avoidant (Disorganized). They describe how much relationship anxiety and avoidance a person typically experiences. Secure people are comfortable with both closeness and independence, while the three insecure styles reflect different patterns of fearing abandonment or fearing intimacy.
How long does the attachment style test take?
The test has 30 questions and takes about five minutes to complete. Each question asks how much you agree or disagree with a statement about relationships, using a five-point scale from Strongly disagree to Strongly agree. You get your result instantly after the final question.
Is this attachment style test scientifically based?
Yes. The test is built on attachment theory, one of the most extensively researched frameworks in psychology. The two-dimension scoring model — relationship anxiety and relationship avoidance — is the same approach used in validated instruments like the Experiences in Close Relationships (ECR) questionnaire.
Can my attachment style change?
Yes. Attachment style is not fixed at birth or permanently set in childhood. With self-awareness, healthy relationships, and sometimes therapy, people can and do move toward a more secure attachment style over time. Understanding your current style is the first step in that direction.
Is my attachment style result private?
Completely. The test requires no account and no personal information. Your answers are scored entirely in your browser, and the result is encoded in a shareable URL that you control. Nothing is stored on our servers unless you choose to share your result link.